5. Learn to Let go.

I am learning this sooner than I could have hoped to. Unfortunately shit does happen. I recently  broke up with my long time girlfriend of 5 months. That's a long time after not dating for about year or 3 and half. Three of those months we spent apart. She's in Kenya and I SA. Long Distance, the relationship killer! Some refer to it as the O.R Tambo phenomenon; once either partner gets to the airport the relationship is terminated. What were we thinking??!  We were young and in-Love (replace with dumb) and determined to make it work. I blame it on youth and naivety maybe infatuation even and the dumbness!! When we were together it was as great as any long distance relationship could be.

The break up was okay at first. No blood. No guts. It was all mature and understanding. We still talked after we broke up. That was all we had to begin with and that was all we had in the end. Eventually our conversations dried up into callous fights. It was all down hill from there. I'm not sure how fast the bridge between us is burning. I'm scared that I dont mind that it is.

Leting go is a strange thing. esspecially when you are not ready to do it. To ignore the fondest memories. To
forget familiar smells, to have no one to share deepest thoughts...

Learning to let go is harder for some than it is for others. Im still taking classes.

4. You And Him/Her Against The World

Artsy types like to think they can save the world or at the least change it in one way or another. It may seem an endeavor much bigger than they can chew off their already overly full plate. Some people may think it naive. Others may think they are crazy. But the artist believes it. And that's all that matters (to them at least). Through all of this saving the world and what not they need support. If you're already dating them then that's YOU!! If your planing on getting yourself one Get Ready For The Ride.

You are their biggest support. Some build intricate systems around themselves to keep them afloat from the countless times they crash into the ground.Others put all their eggs in the one basket, your basket. and then of course there's always self medication. Its a big responsibility to bare. It can be fun. it could be shitty. Its all part of the package. Its you and them against the world.

been a bit caught up writing and recording songs for the E.P that the blog kinda caught the back burner. There's a few posts coming up that I had written but hadn't had the time to put up.

3. Dont believe the hype. Everyone will have 'slept' with your boyfriend/girlfriend.

If you are one of those people with a group of brain dead friends who specialise in playing broken telephone at the rumour mill then wise up and dump them before you catch wind of their 'he said, she said' bullshit. If you stick around long enough you'll hear stories of your partners infidelity. Below is a list of possible options that you can you can chose in case the rumors reach your ear.
    1. ask your partner about it first (higly recomended)
    2. play ignorant (use as required)
    3. slap the biach who whispered it in your ear. (best option, works 9/10 times + alleviates stress)

Dont believe the hype. It leads to lots of trouble for the most important people in the relationship.

2. Forgive Forgive Forgive

In their over indulgence, insatiable curiosity and search for new material artists, more often than not, end up hurting someone. it could be any one. it could be some one close, a lover, a sibling, a friend, hek even strangers get caught in the cross fire.

This is one of the harder things to deal with when it comes to dating an artist. If you're looking for a place to practice forgiveness find yourself one of them. There will always be something to fight about and to forgive for.

1. Get Ready For The Ride

Artists shouldn't be dated to begin with because they might prefer groupies but if you are hoping to or already are, then this should help you out some.


Its almost like finding a unicorn or a pokemon monster or keeping a piglet. Artsy types come in an assorted range and skill level, just like pokemon!


They cry, they eat, they sleep, they shit, they fight, they procrastinate, they barely make deadlines, they are awkward, they use the internet way too much, some drink, some smoke, some have no time to do anything, some have all the time in the world. they fuck, they skip showers, they almost never clear their work stations, they have interesting back stories, some are narcissistic, some are black sheep. They fall in love to easy, they break hearts, their hearts get broken. they're up at odd hours and they are cool to have around and they are always broke coz they spend all their money on supplies!

Its a full time job. Get get ready for the ride.